Soft Eyes, Strong Spine is an experience-based nonfiction book for men navigating separation, divorce, and fatherhood who want to remain emotionally present without losing strength or stability. 

Written from lived experience rather than theory, the book offers a grounded framework for moving through conflict, parenting, and transition with steadiness instead of collapse or hardening. It explores what it means to soften without appeasing, to stand firm without becoming harsh, and to stay connected when the ground beneath you is shifting.

“Soft eyes” is the capacity to stay open, present, and attuned—to create safety without force.
“Strong spine” is the inner structure that allows you to hold your shape, speak clearly, and stay upright under pressure.

Together, they form a way of being that supports real leadership: with children, with former partners, and with yourself.

This is not a book about fixing what’s broken.
It’s a book about learning how to stand—calm, clear, and solid—when life does what life does.